Saturday, May 15, 2010

Infidelity ...

Hot Summer Night - by Anne VisBeing unfaithful happens all too often and recently a Dutch politician was found out. Follows shame and shouting all around.
Just before this became public a good female friend of mine asked me if I would go after a guy that she would be dating (assuming we would fall for the same type of men, which we don't). I found this a very interesting question as of course a first reaction would be "Well, I sure would hope not!" But how can one be sure of such a thing, given a long history of humanity where it happens all the time? How can you know that your friendship is always going to be more important than this potential partner relationship when forced to choose? And how much control do you actually have over whom you fall in love with? I don't think anyone ever "planned" to fall in love ... it just happens ...
What you do with it is an entirely different matter.
For this politician things would probably have looked different when he would have first broken up with his wife and then after that started this new relationship (he now has lost his wife, his home, his job and what more ...)
If it would be your best friend's partner, one can wonder if there will ever be a winner ... or just tragedy striking? It seems that even being open about it before anything has happened, does not resolve this. I'd love to hear how you would handle such a situation. When the situation is not on it seems so easy to be all moralistic and say you won't go after your love ... but what about reality?
In politics it depends on which country you live in as well. In France it seems to be quite normal to maintain a "mistress" for men (haven't heard of women being with two guys at the same time, apparently a guy does not put up with a second male shagging his partner ...?)
And then of course we have the religious implications.
Coming back to this particular Dutch politician, he was from the same Christian party as the prime minister, who always talks about values and morality (but does not see a problem in starting an illegal war with millions of victims). At Fox news they are already laughing their heads off on hearing about values in the Netherlands, and it seems that they do have a point here ...

Meantime I have been creating quite a bit of new artwork, among them
templates for business cards. And Hot Summer Night (the image above) has been sparking my imagination and I have created several versions in different colors (which I usually don't do). Enjoy the different atmospheres! :-)


Bob Johnson said...

Excellent post Anne. It is amazing to me that among Christians there is more infidelity then in secular circles, is an eyeopener to the way people justify all kinds of stuff for a short term gain, society sucks sometimes, allowing and passing it off as normal.

Sandy said...

I LOVE your art, beautiful!!! This is gorgeous. Interesting post too.

Will said...

I would think that a friend that asks that kind of question should be gently quizzed on insecurity issues. If someone who was a true friend asked that I would be a bit concerned.

On another point, I think you are correct that you may not have control over who you fall in love with, but as you say, what you do with it is another matter entirely. You have 100% control over that.